What my Mom once said, when there is a disagreement between what you and your partner wants, never make your husband choose over something he wants and something you want because that will be unfair for him. Marriage is about accepting each other’s desire. There will be a time that disagreement will come, this happens always but the solution isn’t about asking the other whether it’s you or him/herself, but coming up with something that both of you will agree so that no one will have to choose and get hurt.
Marriage isn’t about choosing between what you want and what your partner wants. It is about learning to live your life as ONE and make choices TOGETHER.